It was a very simple idea: grab my neighborhood directory, call some neighbors I hadn’t talked to in at least a year or had only briefly connected with in the past, and invite them to lunch. Six terrific ladies were able to come. We ate. We laughed. We connected.
We shared stories of work stress, of transitioning from being ‘at-home’ to working full-time, or working full-time from home, or working part-time or being at-home full-time. The table represented about every scenario. We talked about family, about vacations, and about hoping to stay in our neighborhood until our kids graduate from high school, but knowing that with this precarious economy, anything could happen. We talked about all the normal stuff.
I loved that the person I probably knew the least was the first to arrive, and breezed in like a breath of fresh air complete with a beautiful bouquet of peonies. What a sweetheart. I love that one friend had never met a few of the other gals and she got to make some new introductions. I love that for the gals who couldn’t make it this time around, they asked to keep them in mind if I did this again, or perhaps we could grab a coffee or a walk together. I loved how easy it all came together – a few phone calls or emails, some salad and a jug of lemonade. I love that my biggest take-away was ‘why didn’t I do this earlier?’ It was so much fun.
Increasing our connection doesn’t always have to take a lot of energy, or be difficult. Who have we already met or been introduced to at work, in our neighborhood, in our faith community, at our child’s school or in another social circle? Perhaps that’s a great place to start if you’re feeling ‘the freeze.’ Perhaps some of our frozen behavior lies in the fact that we’re often trying so hard to be pleasant and non-intrusive that we end up waiting for the phone to ring instead of making the first call ourselves.
My lesson learned: pick up the phone and make the call. My impromptu lunch was fun, refreshing and started my weekend off on a real lift. I will definitely do this again in the coming months.